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Boulder, CO 80302

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March 12, 2019

 Once a terminal diagnosis is delivered, we step onto a new path with a specific destination and few maps to guide us. The emotional turbulence that ensues can overwhelm even the bravest explorer.

In our modern society we tend to be emotionally illiterate. It is helpful to build an emotional vocabulary now so that, in times of turbulence, we are better able to express our needs.

This month we challenge you to practice a ritual of tracking your emotions.

Karla McLaren, author of The Language of Emotions, suggests that each emotion we experience has a gift for us. Fe...

February 13, 2019

“ When it’s over, I want to say: all my life I was a bride married to amazement. I was the bridegroom, taking the world into my arms.”

– Mary Oliver (1935 – 2019)

I spent the last month performing the duties of a medical health care agent for my dear friend Celeste.

She was hospitalized for two months while doctors tried to stabilize her congestive heart failure. She had vying teams of cardiologists and nephrologists attempting to rid her of water weight without overloading her kidneys. By mid-January, her condition deteriorated further as her organs struggled to resp...

January 9, 2019

“ Start close in,

don’t take the second step

or the third,

start with the first thing

close in,

the step you don’t want to take.”

– David White

Start close in.

I challenge you to step into a Year of Conscious Transitions in which you honor and celebrate the past, cross thresholds, and meet the future with gratitude and joy.

Poets, prophets, shamans and mystics remind us that death makes life precious. We know logically that all living things die. Our anxiety, fears and attachments keep us from discovering the treasures of living fully while knowing that death is inevitable.


November 20, 2018

"Gratitude awakens another way of being in the world, one that nurtures the heart.”  

~ Angeles Arrien

As I prepared to write our November newsletter on the practice of gratitude, I looked up the etymology of the word. Surprisingly, I misread the dictionary definition.  I read, “The quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and return to kindness.” Return to kindness inspired me.  (The definition actually read, “…to return a kindness.”) 

For many years I have incorporated gratitude practices in my daily rituals. The thought of expanding it in...

October 9, 2018

“We remember our ancestors because it is an easy thing to forget: that we are not the first to suffer, rebel, fight, love, and die.” 

~ Alice Walker

This October I will honor my ancestors with others.

I recently moved into a co-housing community. There are 36 living units with 106 ways of doing things. Sometimes it is challenging to get anything done. But, we all agree that honoring our ancestors is an important activity.

So, we will celebrate Dia de los Muertos together on November 1, 2018.

Creating a ceremony that everyone can participate in takes time and energy. We...

July 27, 2018

Ritual and ceremony are ancient human activities. Some anthropologist think rituals are a basic human instinct.  The wisdom keepers knew that ritual ceremonies invoked a visceral experience of both the visible and invisible worlds. The bonds of community were strengthened through the use of rituals. Ceremonies provided an opportunity to be filled with a sense of wonderment.

Modern researchers have demonstrated that people who practice rituals can lower their level of anxiety and gain confidence in their own abilities to solve problems.  They better navigate the di...

April 13, 2018

“Don't judge each day by the harvest you reap but by the seeds that you plant.” 

~ Robert Louis Stevenson

I would like to say that I have been hibernating this winter but instead I have been un-settling.  In a way it has been an inward journey of digging deep into the past, releasing all that no longer serves, and honoring all the gifts that have come my way over the years. In truth, I am moving out of my home of 35 years, downsizing into a condominium in the middle of town. 

I had no idea what an enormous task this would be.

In order to live a conscious...

September 30, 2017

“May your values, memories, and life experience become the wisdom by which you bless the future.” - Rachael Freed

I attended a beautiful wedding this weekend and had the opportunity to sit with and old friend I had not seen in many years.  After catching up on life events, we settled into a discussion of the changes we witnessed in our culture and what values may have been lost along the way.  While my friend and I come from different political spectrums, we found common ground when sharing the values that are important to each of us.

I suggested that we should...

August 22, 2017

“To meet everything and everyone through stillness instead of mental noise is the greatest gift you can offer to the universe."

– Eckhart Tolle

Is your life full of drama?

According to the HeartMath Institute, drama drains your energy and makes it harder to maintain your resilience.

Drama happens on many levels. There is the initial drama during an actual event. More drama is created when you revisit the event or rehash it with your friends and colleagues. Sharing one’s reaction to drama on social media allows it to reverberate creating an environment of drama.


June 11, 2017

Summertime is always the best of what might be."

– Charles Bowden

The Summer Solstice – marking the beginning of Summer and the longest day of the year in the Northern hemishpere – is a time of magic. On the night of June 20/21, we celebrate our sun’s journey to its northernmost point, directly above the Tropic of Cancer.

It is an auspicious time, a time to balance the elements of fire and water, and long celebrated by the ancient wisdom keepers whose sacred temples were designed to align with the sun’s trajectory at this time of the year.

Even to...

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