As April showers bring May flowers so too does a terminal diagnosis bring surprising gifts.
When time is limited we have the urge to reconnect with long lost friends. Seeking forgiveness or asking for forgiveness becomes a necessity, not a luxury. We choose to go on a bucket list adventure. I find my clients who know they are dying are frank in their speech and honest in their assessment of the situation.
Confronting death brings us to attention. It is a time to be fully alive.
Today, when I was walking my dog Jude, I passed two blooming plum trees. I was filled wit...
In my neighborhood, birds are building nests and butterflies are migrating northward. Crocuses are popping up even though snow lingers in the foothills.
It is Spring and time for new beginnings.
I am determined to update my Advance Health Care Directives this Spring.
Last week I visited with my personal attorney. She handed me a sheet of choices regarding artificial nutrition and hydration at the end of life. She asked about my choice of a Medical Health Care Agent. While these ar...
“ When it’s over, I want to say: all my life I was a bride married to amazement. I was the bridegroom, taking the world into my arms.”
– Mary Oliver (1935 – 2019)
I spent the last month performing the duties of a medical health care agent for my dear friend Celeste.
She was hospitalized for two months while doctors tried to stabilize her congestive heart failure. She had vying teams of cardiologists and nephrologists attempting to rid her of water weight without overloading her kidneys. By mid-January, her condition deteriorated further as her organs struggled to resp...
This year, just a few hours before the peak of the January 20 Full Moon (9:36 pm ET), a total lunar eclipse will be visible in North and South America.
During the eclipse, the moon will turn a ruddy red color known as a Blood Moon. We’ll also be treated to a Super Moon, which is both full and at the point in its orbit where it is closest to Earth. A Super Moon appears larger and brighter than a typical full Moon.
This is a perfect time to organize a Releasing Full Moon Ceremony in which you release those things that no longer serve you....
I challenge you to step into a Year of Conscious Transitions in which you honor and celebrate the past, cross thresholds, and meet the future with gratitude and joy.
Poets, prophets, shamans and mystics remind us that death makes life precious. We know logically that all living things die. Our anxiety, fears and attachments keep us from discovering the treasures of living fully while knowing that death is inevitable.
"Gratitude awakens another way of being in the world, one that nurtures the heart.”
~ Angeles Arrien
As I prepared to write our November newsletter on the practice of gratitude, I looked up the etymology of the word. Surprisingly, I misread the dictionary definition. I read, “The quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and return to kindness.” Return to kindness inspired me. (The definition actually read, “…to return a kindness.”)
For many years I have incorporated gratitude practices in my daily rituals. The thought of expanding it in...
“We remember our ancestors because it is an easy thing to forget: that we are not the first to suffer, rebel, fight, love, and die.”
~ Alice Walker
This October I will honor my ancestors with others.
I recently moved into a co-housing community. There are 36 living units with 106 ways of doing things. Sometimes it is challenging to get anything done. But, we all agree that honoring our ancestors is an important activity.
So, we will celebrate Dia de los Muertos together on November 1, 2018.
Creating a ceremony that everyone can participate in takes time and energy. We...
Ritual and ceremony are ancient human activities. Some anthropologist think rituals are a basic human instinct. The wisdom keepers knew that ritual ceremonies invoked a visceral experience of both the visible and invisible worlds. The bonds of community were strengthened through the use of rituals. Ceremonies provided an opportunity to be filled with a sense of wonderment.
Modern researchers have demonstrated that people who practice rituals can lower their level of anxiety and gain confidence in their own abilities to solve problems. They better navigate the di...