“Don't judge each day by the harvest you reap but by the seeds that you plant.”
~ Robert Louis Stevenson
I would like to say that I have been hibernating this winter but instead I have been un-settling. In a way it has been an inward journey of digging deep into the past, releasing all that no longer serves, and honoring all the gifts that have come my way over the years. In truth, I am moving out of my home of 35 years, downsizing into a condominium in the middle of town.
I had no idea what an enormous task this would be.
“Ann was a southern girl with a radical heart. At the center of everything she did was a true sense of compassion and caring for people.”
~ Ann Dudley
A eulogy is a remembrance spoken at a funeral by a close friend or relative of the person who has died. It is not an obituary printed in a newspaper listing accomplishments and those who live on. A eulogy is a testament to the meaning in your life.
As an exercise, writing your own eulogy allows you to pause and consider, “How will I be remembered? Does my life reflect the values that are important to me?” It can hel...
We are fortunate to be a part of a tipping point in our culture. Approaches to dying, death and grief are beginning to shift; people are talking.
Conversations on death can be found everywhere – in numerous articles, bestselling books, TED talks, and among regular people who attend Death Cafés. Even the National Academy of Medicine has an ongoing conversation focused on Dying in America: Improving Quality and Honoring Individual Preferences Near the End of Life.
Much of the wisdom that comes out of these conversatio...
“Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says I'll try again tomorrow.” – Mary Anne Redmacher
Are you feeling fearful? Are your surroundings unfamiliar? Do you need more courage to confront the new year?
During my lifetime I have crossed many thresholds, leaving an old life behind while facing a new adventure. I have often approached these thresholds with joy as I took on the responsibilities of becoming an adult, a wife, a guardian, or stepped into a leadership role. At these times I have entered the...
“The life of the dead is placed in the memory of the living.”
~ Marcus Tullius Cicero
Mexico’s Day of the Dead celebrations offer us an opportunity to connect with our departed loved ones. This tradition is rooted in ancient harvest festivals throughout the world that have also served as a time of remembrance.
From October 31 to November 2 in the northern hemisphere, it has been customary to take this time to remember that life is short and invite departed spirits to return for a visit encouraged by food, wine and festive decorations. In Mexico, family members return...
Mortal is a visual dance of our human experience that is intertwined with birth and death. From the husband and wife filmmaking team of Bobby Sheehan and Sara Feldman Sheehan (who discuss the film in the video above), this unique documentary reminds us that we are born to learn how to die. Mortal brings this truth to us with tenderness and hope.
How do we cope with end-of-life care? How do we live on beyond the death of a beloved? How can we heal our suffering? It takes courage to truly live with dying.
“I will never forget how we changed this room from a place of burden to a place of glory.” – Megory Anderson
Creating and holding sacred space for someone who is ill or dying is a simple but powerful tool. The holding of sacred space separates the area surrounding the dying from the outside world. It produces a healing environment that is safe and peaceful. We create this sacred space with intention and grace.
While there are many ways to open sacred space, the results are the same. The person being held senses the calm, nurturing embrace.
“From the moment you were born, your death has walked beside you.” – John O’Donohue.
In my private practice I have experienced amazing shifts in my clients. The techniques I have learned from the wisdom keepers around the world are amazing. I work with people who are facing death. Each of their journeys are filled with anxiety and fear. How will I manage? Where am I going?
Ron was a hard driving, athletic man before he began having random bleeds in his brain. After the first incidence he worked hard with speech and physical therapists to recover...
“Sacred ceremony helps us bring our being into alignment with the natural flow and rhythm of life.” Steven D. Foster
For thousands of years humans have used ceremony to commemorate the stages in their lives. In the past, ceremonies validated our steps through the thresholds of birth, adulthood, marriage, parenthood, elder and death. And, in doing so our transitions were accomplished with greater ease.
In our modern society the use of ceremony for the thresholds in our lives have been mostly lost or have become disconnected from our spiritual and emotional growth.